Self Esteem Where Children are concerned
There are so many people who think and consider self esteem to be a complicated emotion. They think and feel that children are not affected by self esteem and that; they are not very matured to understand this whole world of self esteem. At a certain level, it is mostly assumed that children do not understand the whole idea of self esteem. However, to make such an assumption that they are ignorant and have nothing to do with self esteem is a big mistake. Children are human and they also have emotions which mean they are also affected by self esteem issues no matter their age. When children are shown true and endless love, care and respect; they are able to achieve more than just the ordinary.
Yes, when children are made to feel like they are the best in this world from day one, they grow to be more confident and feel more loved. Where children are concerned self esteem is mostly not considered to be a serious issue. However, there is the need for it to be clear that, the children of today are more emotional and very intelligent than children some years ago. This is why children from the onset need to be treated like adults. Self esteem of adults has their roots and these roots are from childhood. The foundational emotions of children always matter because it goes a long way to affect the self esteem of these children.
It is mostly the result of all these gathered treatments from childhoods that affects the life of children in a long run. Parents are the main source of either positive or negative results that lead to children growing up to have self esteem and not. The more parents understand the role they play in the life of their children, the better they feel about themselves. Parents should never try to modify or change the thinking route of their children rather, they need to try to motivate and influence them. Never try to force your very own thoughts and mentalities into the minds of your children. Leave your children to grow their own way so that they will be able to have positive self esteem.
Four Ways on How to Suggest Marriage Counseling To a Spouse
Regardless of the status of your marriage, most of the time a wife or a husband may see a request for marriage therapy as a threat or criticism. Ideally, counseling may turn out to be the last resort in saving your marriage. There are four best ways on how to suggest counseling to your spouse and they may include;
The best time to bring up the subject: Look for the best available opportunity when you are not fighting and then come up with the idea. When you raise the issue in the middle of an argument, it is more likely that it will not to be taken seriously, or even it might end up being taken as personal. The information will be taken seriously if the couples are not distracted by every day stress and are alone. Ensure that you bring out the subject quietly.
Be focused: Your focus should be directed on improving your relationship and aspire to become better partners while at the same time avoid making accusation against your spouse thus making them unhappy. If counseling is seen by your spouse as a form of punishment or a way of laying blame, then there are chances that he may not corporate fully during the process. Take and accept responsibilities for marital problems that exist and also explain vividly that you would like to improve on your relationship skills.
Determination to succeed: If there exist unwillingness in your spouse to attend marriage counseling sessions, then you might decide to start going alone and maybe with time, he or she may see your commitment and thus join you later.
Spouse presence: Explain to your spouse vividly that his or her presence is needed in the marriage counseling sessions so as to make progress. If he sees it as a way of helping you rather than accounting for his faults, he might be more convinced to come.
Marriage troubles beset most relationships at some point or another. Seek help before it’s too late.
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